With an unplanned pregnancy you need to consider that you may be a single parent.  Single parenting is not an easy choice to make. You will have many days where you might not think you can make it. Even though we fully support your decision to parent and will help you in any way we can, we want to make sure that you are not putting yourself into a stressful and harmful situation. Remember to learn about all of your options! At Turning Point our trained peer counselors are ready to assist you in discovering all the support services that exist in our area. We exist to support you throughout your pregnancy and beyond!

However, simply because this pregnancy was not planned does not mean you will automatically be a single parent.  The father of the child may surprise you and want to parent the child with you.  Or simply because you start off as a single parent does not mean you may always be a single parent.  Many women with children find relationships, love and marriage.

Here are some questions to consider when thinking about parenting/single parenting:

We can help you explore your housing options before you deliver. Most single parents need to work. Consider your childcare options in each situation:

• Living with a friend or relative
• Staying in a group home for single mothers
• Living with your parents or the birthfather's parents
• Finding an apartment in public, subsidized housing

Turning Point has many material resources for you and your baby. We can help you find certain material items that you may need throughout your pregnancy and while your child is an infant.

The father's legal responsibilities include providing financial support for your child. Most states have a child support enforcement agency that will withhold money from his paycheck if he is unwilling to pay. If the father is unable to provide child support, you need to plan how you will care for your baby without him. A birthfather's support record may influence court decisions about custody and visitation rights.
In some states, the father's name is not even put on the birth certificate unless you request it. If he has signed a notarized paternity affidavit, he may have legal rights, including visitation and the right to deny or consent to medical decisions for your child. Our peer counselors will provide more details about the birthfather's rights and responsibilities. You and the father should also discuss your individual rights and responsibilities. A child's needs are best met when you and the father work together. **More information can be found under “For Men – FAQ’s”

Can I still choose adoption later if parenting doesn't work out?

If single parenting becomes too difficult and you decide to consider adoption, making an adoption plan is still an option. It takes courage to realize that by yourself you cannot provide all that your child needs. But separating from a child with whom you have bonded can be difficult. We will be happy to connect you with several adoption agencies in your area that can help you.