If you are visiting this site in an effort to help a friend we commend you.  This may be one of the most difficult times your friend will ever experience and she will need people that care about her to surround her with support.  One of the most helpful things you can do for her is encourage her to get as much information about her options as possible before making her choice. 

Many women feel shame and embarrassment about becoming pregnant on accident and therefore just want it to be “done and over with” as soon as possible.  They often believe that abortion is their only option.  Therefore, as her friend you can encourage her to take her time before making a decision; as it does not matter which decision she makes, it will affect her for the rest of her life, it is permanent.  So no matter what you personally feel about any of the options (parenting, adoption or abortion) encourage her to consider each of them and get more information if possible.  Talk about each of the options with her and encourage her to get counsel from people with other views as well.

During this time she may feel very alone.  She may also feel as though everyone has their own ideas about what she should do.  She needs you to be there to support her and encourage her to make an informed decision.  If you need more information to share with her, please feel free to contact us.